Well I am pretty awesome at least I think so. I’m giving, I’m loving, I’m a great friend and I have all the reasons in the world to love and hold myself in high regard. Self love is my motivation for success, my demand for respect and my healthy habit of keeping people out of my life who do not feel the same about me or themselves. Self love makes us independent and unlikely to be moved about how others feel about us. Even with a loving family, loving friends and great acquaintances I rarely rely on the love of others to motivate me when it to the things I want or need.

I buy myself gifts, I smile because I’m happy and I reward myself for a job well done. I even try and show people that they are worthy of love when they may think otherwise. I always say “no one should love you more than you love yourself”. I love myself enough not to rely on others for my happiness or my greatness. That’s my idea of being self sufficient.

Self love is not the root of conceit but taking on full responsibility for taking care of me. I don’t know how anyone could feel any different.

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This can probably go without saying but I love perfect weather. To me that’s between 67F and 76F, sunny and blue skies.  After all I moved 2000 miles away from home for the cause. San Diego, known for the most perfect weather I am officially a resident and I’m more than proud.

There was a time when I thought I would not be living in San Diego and it made me sad  but I knew after my first visit I had to be there. My tresses were flowing in the wind as the mist of ocean kissed my cheeks. This was the most wonderful and eye opening experience. It gave me the drive I needed to make it happen. But even before then, I lived in Palm Springs, CA  who also had beautiful weather with the exception of the summers. But whether here or there, near or far I can appreciate great weather.

I like being outdoors, seeing people and their pets, couples and everyone sharing my same enjoyment. I remember when my friend told me ” when you move to San Diego, YOU HAVE TO GET BIKE”. I nodded and in somewhat agreement but I had no idea I would enjoy it so much. In the day, in the night it’s always perfect.

(San Diego, CA )

Perfect weather is just one of my favorite things….

(Palm Springs, CA)

(San Diego, CA )

(Gulf Shores, AL)

(Baton Rouge, LA)

(Desert Hot Springs, CA )

(Los Angeles, CA )

Where does Perfect Weather fall on your list of favorite things. …..

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Hello February! I can’t believe January 2012 has already come and gone. But for many reasons instead of associating February with Black History month I always associate it with love. Maybe like the rest of the world I’ve become commercialized into the celebrating of holidays. And when I walk in the store I don’t see Martin Luther King Jr ballons or bears with Barack Obama t-shirts I see flowers, chocolates, huge bears and RED EVERYWHERE. So “they” won by distracting me and this month I’ve decided to dedicate all my post to the things I love.

After all it is one of the greatest of emotion. Sometime over coming hurt, loss, failures and disappointments and in other cases being the cause.  Some people even spend their entire lives searching for it not even knowing the best love is love of self but whatever the case it is an emotion definitely worth celebrating and this February that’s exactly what I plan to do.

I’ve never experienced a romantic Valentines Day but I’ve always had loving parents, loving friends ‘n family and  daily reminders of it’s presence. Happy February, let’s celebrate.

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I thought I was going to have a problem finding dry ice but after questioning a few of my co-workers that was even behind me. After work I headed to Ralph’s for a huge chunk making sure it was under 5lbs. I read an article that read something about 5lbs being the limit for the dry ice when shipping perishable items. Tomorrow I will be shipping it frozen solid and to him next day air. I wish I had thought about how close Valentine’s Day was because all too late I thought how cute it would have been to send some v-day cookies but I don’t know if I’ll be up for the run around again in the next two weeks but this I’m sure he’d enjoy.

Sometime I think about the guys I’ve dated and/or come across and how shocked some of them would be to know I would do something like this. The ones that I’ve been in a relationship with it would be no shock but these other guys have never seen such a side. I’m giving, loving and all of the above but it’s certainly not something I express with every guy I meet. But I like this guy and besides it is hard to date long distance so going the extra mile is more than necessary in my opinion. Is this guy lucky or what?

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About two months after landing in D.i.ego this agency picked me up and I’ve been working with the same company ever since. Recently having went on two interviews I am even more thrilled to have came here, started working and making my mark in the hearts of professionals I’d say I’m doing well.

I seldom wonder what I would be doing had I still lived in my hometown but odds are I’d still be in a broken relationship with my ex and putting in 40 hours a week at a job I hate. Even when things got rough for me I had no regrets on moving. And now that I’m here I have no plans on giving up. I’m all about progress and I don’t see that changing anytime soon if ever.

My first  year was fulfilling. Met a couple guys, nobody I want to marry or pro-create with but meeting people is fun. As  I’ve mentioned before I’ve taken on bike riding to have a little more active lifestyle as I’ve imagined it would be in Cali and gained lots of knowledge from the people I’ve met. I also finally got up enough gut to catch the Trolley, I just couldn’t figure out how it was done before actually doing it so I just went for it one day.  And now I can ride the thing all day like a pro. I love the public transportation system in this city along with everything else.

The only complaint I have is that I only planned on staying in my studio a year but it looks like I’ll be here a little longer until I secure another job. A job that supports my goal of increasing my income by 30%. Until then, I’ll continue to save and be comfy because I’m not moving until then. Unless “DC” makes some crazy plans to come out here before then. I honestly can’t see that happening, now.  But yes we’ve talked about it.

To celebrate my one year anniversary in S.an D.ie.go I’m going to hang out with one of my home girls who’s actually originally from BR. We worked together (at the job I hated) and then sometime mid last year she moved here. I’m not really sure what the plans are in detail but I did commit to hanging out with her for this occasion.

It’s something about milestones that keep me motivated. Let’s celebrate. Cheers.

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I still find myself mind boggled as to why I have decided to allow myself to fall for a man that lives over 2000 plus miles away. I fuss at him sometime and ask why did he ever pursue me knowing we lived so far apart and his latest answer was “well I really didn’t expect it to go anywhere”. Really, that’s funny. So what was the point again? Well now it’s too late, we have become somewhat deeply involved to the point I really don’t want to be bothered with any other guys. But I’ve been having a hard time dealing with him being there and well…me being here.

The good thing is that I can bike ride every day, no make up and slip into my tennis shoes more often than I would had he lived here in Diego. But I often find myself questioning “is it really worth it”. And so far, I am not fully convinced but since my attempts to cyber divorce him has failed numerous times and he still makes me blush. I have decided to continue this romantic love affair with him. Crazy, yes I know. Every one that knows me know I am a supreme emotional being. I love love, feeling and both showing love but so far I’ve been having trouble getting him to see my point of view. It’s almost as if he lives in this man cave where showing emotion is prohibited. I actually thought it was cute when he sent me a text with something like a crying face that he hadn’t talked to me in two days. So even though he’s way behind on how I’ve felt about it all along I think he might actually be coming around.

In my efforts to make things just a little easier for us I’ve taken the initiative in making him feel special to me. Which I think is VERY necessary because we live so far apart. I think he’s appreciative but he hasn’t quite caught on as to what he should be doing. To date he has done nothing. I believe because he is a part of the male species he may think that he has by traveling to see me but in reality this is not enough to keep a woman like myself on lock. He definitely needs to come harder but as I spoke to him about these things recently he still sounds like he just plans to give me all his love when we are together as opposed to the time we are apart which I think is very important.

And for this reason I have been struggling terribly. So I have just a few ideas I think may make our “relationship” better at least on my end.

• Home Cooked Meals via NEXT DAY AIR

After at least trying to convince “DC” to get the steak or chicken as opposed to the god-only-knows-what beef from Ta.co Bell I decided it would be nice for him to get a home cooked meal from his truly every once in a while. Maybe once a month. After reading a few articles on shipping perishable items I think I have a general idea of what has to happen to accomplish my goal. I haven’t discussed this with him yet, I’m actually hoping it comes as a surprise but if too much time elapse before I get to send him his first home cooked meal I’ll probably ruin it like I did with the pillow from W.es.t El.m and bouquet of lavender when he was sick. I don’t think he loved it any less but I know this would really blow his mind. So far I’ve considered Lasagna, Home made chilli, and after talking to my sister today crawfish etoufee.

• Mini Trips

I think when he thinks of our visits he wants it to be 4-5 day trips but the reality of it is with his workload this might not happen as much as I’d like it to. Had I known he wasn’t going to make this January trip I would have gone to see him for this three- day weekend. I’m going to mark up my calendar in outlook for oppurtunities like this. I just need him to understand that I am a woman at the peak of my sex life and going months without seeing him is just simply not going to work with me.

• Pictures

We don’t see each other a lot of course so I think I should send him more pictures. Not naughty pictures just cute little pictures throughout the day to remind him he has someone that’s thinking about him from 2000 miles away. We usually email each other pictures of US when he was here in conversation which I think is seriously cute but a few more pics wouldn’t hurt.

• MAKE BUSY

Have you guys ever attempted a long distance relationship? What advice can you offer a woman that’s missing her beau? All suggestions will be considered.

Sincerely,

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After briefly having this conversation with one of my friends and then today reading a post by a fellow blogger I decided to publicly put it out there that I am definitely in the market for love. For the last two years I’ve been focusing on self and have  avoided serious relationships. For one I made a big  move and then a year later and after a few months of unemployment yet  another move. But now I’ve settled in the city I’ve been trying to get to for years, beautiful San Diego. Working, saving, and leading an active life style I have decided to pursue LOVE. At this point it seems to be the only thing missing aside from a new puppy oh and a kid, but I have some time for that.

More than anything I just want to find someone to spend my life with traveling, laughing and enjoying the many measures this world has to offer. The harsh reality of it all is that I’m not getting any younger and some handsome man needs to marry me before I depreciate into an old hag. But before I even speak marriage I need to find the most important ingredient of it all, and that’s love.

For those of you who’ve been reading my inconsistent post about “DC” know that we live miles away from each other, have been conversing about a year and here recently he said that he would consider our dealings as “dating”. More than I’m seeking a titled relationship I’m seeking the emotional connection between me and some charming man. Someone I can trust, someone  that I know without a doubt loves me to pieces and is down for the long haul. I would like for it to be him but it doesn’t have to be. I just want it to be real love, long lasting and hopefully leading to marriage. But as stated before I just want to get there; the next chapter. Which brings me to the topic of ultimatums.

I believe in letting things happen,  allowing them to unfold in their timing but the truth is my biological clock is ticking and before I move on to anything else I must first find love. So I have decided to give this romantic relationship about 7 more months to flourish into something more or I’m on to the next.  I will still allow it to either happen or not happen. I just  have an unspoken time limit. Like my blogger friend made a goal to fall in love in 2011 and it happened I don’t see why I can’t feed the universe my request as well. In 7 months I’ll be 30 years old and hopefully celebrating in my home state with family and friends. I have already invited him along but if things are still kinda up in the air I don’t think I want him to meet my family. I’m not saying he has to propose to me or anything. He doesn’t even have to say that he loves me within this time frame but I definitely need to know that he does or at least is on his way there emotionally. Of course I would never tell him about this time frame but I don’t think this is something I should keep putting off. Before you know it, I’ll be old and my eggs will be dust. 
And although the thought of loving someone again makes me nervous I’m definitely ready to have that emotional connection in my life, those days of snuggling, giggles and laughs with some wonderful man that makes me happy.  I hope he whomever he is…is too and finds me soon.

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The next thing I’m looking forward to is a new job. Working with this company almost a year and as the other workers have slacked horribly because of my presence it’s certainly time to move on. I gained loads of knowledge, great experience and amazing things I can add to my resume. Such a sweet deal but honestly I don’t get paid enough to do other people’s work. Also they don’t have any positions I’d want coming available anytime soon. So I feel like my time there is coming to an end. At least for now. At the end of this month I’ll be interviewing for a position that could grant me my  wish of taking a break from the world of paper work. After some time it all gets redundant. I’ll be working outdoors with the public and with the p.o.li.ce d.ep.a.rt.men.t . Better than the idea of getting away from paperwork for a while this position will allow me to go back to school full time. OMG you have no idea how bad I want this job. If I get it, I’ll be officially  enrolling in this ar.chi.tec.ture school that’s located not even two blocks from where I live. Sometime I actually feel like God is smiling down on me and is my biggest fan. But of course as instructed by my beloved brother-in-law and life coach I have a plan B, C, and D in every situation. Plan B, is to take another position with the company I already work. Plan C is to take another  job with the city and Plan D is…well. Go to the po.l.ic.e aca.demy. That’s really my last resort until something else amazing happens. They pay well and I’ve already received the blessings of my mother. Besides my father was a cop for 30 years.

I’ve officially been a bike rider for two solid months. Riding to work and anywhere else I want to go that doesn’t have ridiculous hills but I’ve only lost three pounds. As “DC” mentioned I could be gaining muscle mass so I shouldn’t worry about it too much. I know he’s going to love these even more defined legs that he’s already fallen in love with.

I really hope everything works in my favor but even if I don’t get the job I want I know something great will still happen. That seems to be the path I usually travel. What have you guys been up to so far?

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10. Learn how to order my food in another language.

9. Visit “DC”.

8. Kiss while the sun sets.

7. Lose 10-20lbs.

6. Visit my bestie in Philly

5. Go fishing!

4. Get a passport

3. Take a dance class

2. Go on a cruise.

1. Celebrate my 30th birthday in New Orleans

Although not nearly as fun as my original 30 before 30 list from two years ago. But I’ll be sure to slip some fun in.

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I kicked 2011 off surrounded by friends but this New Year’s Eve it looks like I may be taking it to the couch as a party of one.  I can’t even really complain about that since I’m so comfy and has been this way all day. But I must say I expected “DC” to be a little more interested in bringing in the New Year with me . I’m just saying flowers would have been nice if he couldn’t physically be here. But that didn’t happen and he’ll be here soon. But aside from that I have no real complaints of 2011.

I moved to “America’s Finest City”, met loads of new people, picked up bike riding and caught the attention of a few admirers along the way. 2011 was basically the beginning of everything I’ve always wanted. To live in Cali with perfect weather and by the water. The only thing I’m missing is the dog I want to someday run the beach with. I guess it’s good that   “DC” and I sorta established something so we’ll see where that goes. But the only thing I plan to focus on in  2012 is lots of progress and personal growth especially since this is the last year I’ll be spending in my 20′s. I would say 2011 laid a good foundation for the things to come and I’m all l too excited. Happy New Year!

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